This reminds me of the idea of queer as a way of life and not a fixed identity, i.e. you can be gay but not queer. Being queer is "to truly and joyously commit to the bit" as you put it. I agree with moving away from "splitting hairs". I've explored how some queer people, especially lesbians, may need to do some inner work to heal the insecurities, and heal from the trauma that leads to gatekeeping. We really do have bigger fish to fry!
For years everyone has loved to get mad at me when i position being gay as a lifestyle choice but it is actually megaminded gender studies shit and we are so far past reductive born this way ideology… i’m so happy you wrote this it’s speaking to me…
This reminds me of the idea of queer as a way of life and not a fixed identity, i.e. you can be gay but not queer. Being queer is "to truly and joyously commit to the bit" as you put it. I agree with moving away from "splitting hairs". I've explored how some queer people, especially lesbians, may need to do some inner work to heal the insecurities, and heal from the trauma that leads to gatekeeping. We really do have bigger fish to fry!
Thank you Gia!
For years everyone has loved to get mad at me when i position being gay as a lifestyle choice but it is actually megaminded gender studies shit and we are so far past reductive born this way ideology… i’m so happy you wrote this it’s speaking to me…
Omg are u Indian ?
yes tamil
Deeply related to your choice, and how you came to it 🩷 thank you for your words
thank YOU for reading!!
You're not the only one ❤️❤️
Did the longread, loved it. A friend of mine did the same a few years ago
Absolutely loved this!!
I thought being gay wasn’t a choice.
Everything is true and also meaningless
This reminds me of my fav definition of queerness. “To be queer is to be against the state” -Angela Wylie
>shut lib Eating carpet in 2017, but only to #Resist
I really loved this 💙